What is it that you want to understand?
Why is it so difficult for you to let some things be?
Is it possible that you’re trying so hard to find the reason that you cannot love me?
Why do you need to understand? What will understanding get you?
Have you thought of changing your method of searching out understanding?
Have you been asking questions? Have you been asking the right person? Have you been asking the right questions?
Are you seeking true understanding or justification for your assumptions?
Which is more important: showing your love or proving your understanding?